Explore the Subject of ‘Self Disclosure’ by Counsellors

Explore the substance of ego-importance revelation by councellors Disclosure in the dictionary is the act of reveal and exposing to view My understanding of ego manifestation in this context is to mean divine revelation the counsellors in-personised information and emotions. In this unique blood this is to be expect when the client is communicating, in fact it is actively progressd, beca wasting disease that is their wheel around in the healing(predicate) relationship. However my exploration lead concern when is it acceptable for the counsellor to blether about themselves or their proclaim feelings?Counsellors must speak since this is a talk therapy and surely e truly word and reply is a form of self disclosure, yet what is said croupe hold back serious consequences. I will demonstrate how and when this can hurt or assist the client. When I began having own(prenominal) counselling myself, I expected a relationship like a dummy up friendship, I found the fact that this expert had the answers, and didnt offer them to me, which was at times very frustrating. My counsellor was psychodynamic and I am now assured that different styles of counselling accept a to a greater extent open, less restricted, go on to self disclosure.Since this is however a psychodynamic course, I will endeavour to, inwardly length limitations, give an outline of the primary(prenominal) issues using this approach to the subject, illustrated with bibliography, physique strikeing and personal experience of organism a client. Our professional roll as counsellors incorporates enforcing certain boundaries, even on our ability to speak candidly about what we feel and deliberate. The client is encouraged to talk openly and freely, to help them to watch from the exploration of their problems.However when using the psychodynamic approach we withhold our witness knowledge and experiences, although sometimes it may appear to be appropriate and effective to the client. It can often be quite difficult to do this, in particular when clients are acquireing us challenges, but once we live started revealing personal details, it may be difficult to stop. We should be aware that a client could also be trying to get the counsellor to show as a form of resistance or defence, to avoid talk about and facing their own problems.I agree with Freuds view It force be expected that it would be quite allowable and indeed useful, with a view to overcoming the patients existing resistances, for the doctor to afford him a glimpse of his own mental defects and conflicts, and, by giving him information about his own brio enable him to put himself on an equal footing.. I select no hesitation in condemning the technique as incorrect. (quoted by M. Jacobs 1992 84)Non communicative communication is very master(prenominal), as we as counsellors can match from clients body language, we must take care that the client does not submit ours. Freud preferred the clien t to recline on a couch for righteous such a reason, he said I do not wish my pull upions of face to give the patient material for interpretation, or to run him in what he tells me. (quoted by M. Jacobs 1992 84) The counsellor today however, must learn to control their immediate reactions, particularly the disallow ones of shock or disapproval, verbal or otherwise.During my personal experience of being a client, I sight that my counsellor came to grimace at the mention of the name of one of my close supportive friends, and I later realised, by dint of things she said, that she felt some rival towards this person. This self disclosure of her counter-transference feelings was very damage to our relationship. We check to be very aware of our clients reactions to what we say and do, in this way, even if we have made a mistake, our positive responses to the error can be useful instead of damaging to the client.Self disclosure may be invited by the clients inappropriate feelings towards us as counsellors. These transference reactions, may be worded and feel like, a personal attack or question, worthy of a personal reply. However it is important to realise that the client is saying something significant, but it is not about us, so self disclosure is not necessary. It is important that we remain indifferent(p) to encourage this transference to occur. M.Jacobs gives this reason The psychodynamic counsellor, like the analyst, wishes to encourage the client to speak of the ideas and images that go down from within himself, rather than those which are suggested directly by the counsellor, or by signs which the counsellor gives. (1994 27) So when we are surprised by a personal enquiry of this type, it is better to look through the distortion and use an appropriate response such as I wonder why that is important to you? or even It foregatherms as if I was reminding you of soul else? Not flavor at their motivation is a missed opportunity for the client to ac complish a deeper understanding of their present reactions towards other people. If we take a neutral roles the client is the only one introducing their beliefs, expectations or thoughts into the room. In the early eld of being a client myself, I had an experience of this linking not being done. My counsellor revealed that she had taken my questioning of her ability personally.She said my doubts had hurt her feelings, this disclosure was particularly damaging as I felt angry at that time, but had no wish to hurt her again, so could not express my negative feelings. The counsellors counter-transference feelings can lead to either positive or negative disclosure, we must learn to discriminate between the two kinds. brownish and Pedder use this clear definition Winnicott often distinguishes between objective and appropriate counter-transference and subjective aspects which stem more from our own situational or unresolved personal issues. (1991 62) The former is helpful, identifying w ith the clients situation through empathy allows us to tune in to and reflect back their unconscious thoughts and feelings. These can be hidden behind dreams, stories and defences. When we as counsellors use a response such as I wonder if under this theres some vexation? or I feel as though I would have been upset about that, but you dont seem concerned it allows our diclosure of our own responses to repugn the clients view of the world, which can be a beneficial breakthrough for them.alternately expressing feelings that come from our own past and counter-transference can have devastating results. I can remember an occasion in class, during a roll play, when someone playing the counsellor had so much in common with his clients experiences, that his counter-transference tight tempted him to say Thats what happened to me dont make the same mistakes I did, this is what I learnt from the experience. He resisted the temptation and when reviewing the session in the class he asked the client what his response would have been if he had revealed this about himself he client replied how can you know what I am feeling? your circumstances are not the same as mine, I dont want to hear about you The kind of unsolicited self disclosure he was considering may have caused a huge measure of potentially damaging, anger and resentment towards the counsellor. So in conclusion, when is self disclosure helpful or harmful to the client? This is a professional relationship and not a social one, so different rules of disclosure do apply, hopefully theory may be enhanced by expertise and we may learn to modify these rules slightly for different clients.I think that this is an unusual and special alliance and it is vital for the client to learn to see a counsellor as real, a human being, personally problematical in and interested by their problems, someone they can identify with and learn to trust. Some self disclosure is helpful, if not essential, for building this part of the healthful relationship. Sometimes it is impossible not to reveal personal details, such as your holiday arrangements, health or appearance, the client may also ask questions for information or through their transference.The fact that the counsellor does not have to reveal personal details can increase personal gage and enhance their involvement. Gently exploring with the client why they feel they need to know, is the to the highest degree helpful kind of response. Self disclosure is damaging when the information is unsolicited, or when the counsellor gives answers which evoke an emotional response in the client. As a client myself, I found that my counsellors revelations had damaging effects on me, maybe because the feelings they aroused in me were never resolved satisfactorily, even by lengthy discussion.This eventually led to my change of counsellor, which was a depressing and painful, experience and shows how detrimental self disclosure can be to the therapeutic relationshi p. It even caused me to question the process itself, not for the reason I expected, because I didnt get my questions answered, but because I did Although it may be difficult for the new client or inexperienced counsellor to adjust to, it is a time for the client to research their feelings, make their choices and find their own answers. Maybe with experience and true self awareness we can learn to keep the focus naturally on the client, finding the balance of openness and rofessionalism that is needed to help them most of all. 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